Whoever is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment
"Now the works of the flesh are plain: fornication, impurity, licentiousness, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, anger, selfishness, dissension, factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and the like. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things shall not inherit the Kingdom of God."
Some say we can't control our emotions, but we "choose" our emotions from our "emotional toolbox." If anger is in our heart already, events will bring it out. If we have let God give us peace, our reaction to events will reflect this: we may respond to offenses or accidents with humor, kindness and patience, because that is what is in our heart.
But if we still have anger in our heart, what do we do in the meantime? Once the anger wells up and starts to spill out, we have an ongoing decision: let it out or refuse to participate. This is not a matter of holding it in. It is a matter of starving it, refusing to feed it. Anger always dissipates eventually, so we can just let it happen sooner by not holding on to it and refusing to enjoy it. People enjoy their anger. Think about it; you will find it is true. Even though we may feel terrible later, we enjoy the power of anger while we are giving ourselves to it. We get an adrenaline rush and forget all the bad things about ourselves.Every angry person feels righteous. When we are angry we concentrate on the object of it and forget everything else. It is Judgment Day, and we are playing God. Parenting may be the worst situation of all. An angry parent faces a small, helpless child and truly is an awesome force. The child can be frightened beyond belief, and the parent may come to enjoy this feeling, especially if the parent feels helpless in the face of others. Supervisors can intimidate employees in the same way, teachers do it to students, administrators to teachers, and schoolmates even bully each other.
The key is that only the righteous have a "right" to be angry. Appropriately, this is called "righteous indignation." There are rare cases where we are angry for the right reason: when we hear someone make racist remarks, lie to destroy another's reputation, or witness a heinous crime. However, none of us is truly righteous: we do wrong things, too. Given our own sins, we are in no position to judge, and righteous anger implies a kind of judgment, at least of an action. We aren't called to stand high above other people but with them. We fail, and we desire compassion and patience from others.
Many times, our anger over situations is not due to the situations' actual morality, but is because they conflict with our own ideas about what is good. And our ideals are not always God's. A good deal of self-examination is required: why am I really angry?
Oh come on there is a difference between anger and ignorance!
ReplyDeleteanger is that temper that builds up(not controllable, like natural anger problems), ignorance is bullying,killing,racism..etc!
"Some say we can't control our emotions"..i agree with this why do you think people hide their emotions but they are so hurt inside, they just ignore it but its killing on the inside, cause they cant control it,thats why it randomly pops out!!
its hard to control feelings,no matter what feeling it may be(hurt,love,pain..bla bla), we only like to talk(or write) about it but we do not actually feel it...just part of who we are!
this is my opinion...
-MJheartdefiner
Perhaps, sometimes.. anger is a reaction to a life too overloaded woes.. as an electric battery which was too loaded..or the lightning and thunder at the end of a too hot summer day.
ReplyDeleteI try, the most of time, to remain calm faces to situations that I find scandalous or unfair..But when it reminds me of my own life pains.. this too deep emotion, mount and can explode in words.. tremblings.. in a sensation of cold in my bones... or in tears.
But the anger doesn't imply the brutality or violence.. It only aggravates the act of violence..as alcohol exacerbates any act committed under its effect.
It's easy to speak or to write about anger, while all is quiet around us, and the sun shines outside.
Try to imagine the worst brutality and abuse in your life.. and ask yourself if anger wouldn't be in a small corner of your heart.